If you are a blogger, or you are over 40, or you live in East Anglia – or indeed if you are all of these – then my next Fabulous Females interview star will need little introduction.
Melinda Fargo is a freelance writer, blogger, former newspaper columnist for the UK’s largest regional newspaper, the EDP – Editor-in-chief of online magazine Post-40 Bloggers, a photographer and public speaker. To pay the bills she is also a project management professional.
At the beginning of my blogging journey Mel’s blog was one of the first I fell in love with. Not just because she wrote about subjects close to my heart but because she lived in my home county and wrote for the newspaper I had devoured not only as a child but also more recently as an adult.
Mel has faced her fair share of sadness and challenges in her life, but her indomitable spirit is paramount in her writing, as is her love and adoration for her children, all of which is interlaced with her unique humour.
In her own words “A mother of four young adults, Melinda remains a widow, but will marry Denzel Washington after the sudden and unexpected disappearance of any of his wives.” I rest my case!
- Who is or was your role model?
My mother. She raised seven children and a husband on very little except the belief that it is education that opens doors, not money. We are now all professionals in varied fields.
- What motivates you?
To be the woman my late husband, Bronson, married and believed in.
- What are the values you hold dearest in life?
- What has been your biggest challenge so far & how did you overcome it?
Losing my husband. Getting out of bed every day. Once that’s done, the hardest part is over.
- What is your proudest moment?
Recently? Launching my greeting card business.
- What motto do you live by?
“Take note of who you are with, where you are or what you are doing when you feel like the best version of yourself.” I coined this phrase to prioritise my life and to give less time to those people, places and pursuits that didn’t serve me well.
- What advice would you give to your teenage self?
Beware adults who let you do what you want, when you want and with whom you want. These adults do not love you. The adults who hold you to account and discipline you are the ones who love you.
- Who gave you the best advice and what was it?
“Do not let adversity be your excuse to fail; instead, let it be the reason you succeed.” A phrase I coined after watching how my mother raised us to face the world no matter how hard things got.
- How would your friends describe you?
Loyal, passionate, funny… and mad.
- What makes you laugh out loud?
My children. If these people weren’t related to me, they are people I would choose to hang out with.
- What would your autobiography be called?
“Where the Voices in my Head come to be Counted.”
- What does being a modern midlife woman mean to you?
Staying open to adventure. Closing ourselves off from possibility is the fastest way to stagnate and become ‘old’ mentally.
- What would be your desert island essential?
- What makes you feel fabulous?
Family who feel like friends and friends who feel like family. Apart from dear friends and family? Perfume. I can evoke a time, place or mood wearing the right fragrance. It is very hard to choose a Holy Grail fragrance, but Portrait of a Lady by Frederic Malle always springs to mind. Currently wearing 31 Rue de Cambon by Chanel to feel warm, sophisticated and cosy in this awful East of England weather we’re having at the moment.
- In your own words – ” A fabulous female is…..
One who doesn’t look to others to find out who she is.
I leave you with one of my favourite comments from Mel “As parents, we never know how happy we are until “the next thing,” and there is always the next thing. And have you noticed how the stakes seem to get higher every time? Stakes which make us wish for the last ‘difficult’ situation. Difficult we realise we can handle. Difficult, we understand now, was a bloody breeze.”
You can find Mel here:
Personal blog – What Mel Did
Online magazine – Post-40 Bloggers
Business – I Miss My Garden Greeting Cards
Twitter – @HerMelness
Instagram – @WhatMelDid